Welcome again to this week's word for the week. I would like to get straight to a point that is something that affects all of us at one time or another in our lives. At some point in your life you will have to learn how to deal with adversity. It could be in something you are going through or it could be with someone you are dealing with. It is a part of life that happens far more often than most of us would prefer. All is not lost and there are times when there really is something you can do about it.
The first thing I would like to point out is that in all things you go through to always step back and observe the lessons that can be taught. There is something you can learn from anything rather that is what to do or not to do the next time. This is important when we are dealing with something as common as adversity. The next point is where we need to focus for this week. You cannot always control the circumstances you face. Sometimes you have to learn how to not let them control you. Give that some thought. You cannot control everything but you also cannot let everything control you.
Circumstances control you when they consume you. When that's all you think about, when it alters the course of your daily life, when it affects your sleep, and when it consumes your thoughts. When these things happen then you are on the verge of losing a battle you can win. Learn how to let go. Learn how to realize some situations are just not designed for your input. By that I mean you have to learn that there are some things that no matter what you try or do there is not going to be any change. That has nothing to do with you. That is often because some things are simply stationary obstacles in life. Yes, read that again. Some things are simply designed to slow you down if you let them. It's up to you to learn when it's time to go around something.
The last thing to remind yourself is that you cannot control the will of others. More people would be free if they would simply grasp that truth. You cannot dictate what someone else will or will not do. It's not your place to do so. Even God gives all of us a free will. It's just up to us to choose the right way. The moment you realize this simple point about others is the moment you will be free from trying to carry burdens that have their name on it and not yours. Far too many people are stressed out over someone else while that person sleeps like a baby every night. You sacrifice your time and energy while they go about doing whatever it is they please. You have to learn how to commit people into the hands of the Lord and trust Him to deliver them. After all, He delivered you!
If you can get a grasp on these two things it will carry you a long way in life. You don't need to completely get it right now. You just need to have a grasp on it. In other words, you just need to understand a piece of it right now and in due time the Lord will reveal and make plain the rest to you. Relax knowing that God will never put more on you than you can bear. If you find yourself on the verge of crumbling under the weight of circumstances then take an honest look at who's holding it. Is it you or God? If it's you then it will be an absolute struggle. If it's God, then it will be an absolute burden lifted off of you. What will your choice be?
May the Lord continue to bless and keep you in His grace,
Bishop Carlos J. Lennon